9 Things to Do to Communicate Assertively and Confidently as a Woman

Friday, March 10, 2017

If you don’t stand up for yourself, then who will? Caryn Walsh writes about what it takes to communicate assertively:

After more than 25 years working with women and running training programs on three continents around the world, I have come to believe that in communication generally, women are passive when it comes to having their needs met.

Communicating effectively as a woman is about knowing what to say, how to say it and when. In my experience, for example, most women in conflict will ‘not have their say’. If I ask a room full of women who is passive or aggressive in conflict, the majority will say passive. Time and time again.

What does it take to communicate assertively as a woman?
  1. Don’t be afraid to say what you mean and mean what you say.
  2. Develop the confidence and belief in yourself to express how you feel even though others may think differently.
  3. Know when it’s time to ‘check out’ for a bit and tell the other person you will both pick up the conversation later, particularly when the discussion is getting heated!
  4. Use Emotional Intelligence in all your dealings by managing your emotions well.
  5. Remain calm in conflict. She who remains calm walks away with better outcomes.
  6. In business, for example, many women are not assertive around the meeting room table. Stand your ground.
  7. Think about what you want to say and say it sensitively.
  8. Acknowledge the other person’s point and then add yours.
  9. Never lose your sense of humour.

Join us in Sydney on April 1 for a powerful, interactive program to learn more about how to communicate more effectively as a woman.